In my speaking engagements, I have been talking about the three weapons that can destroy our light and these weapons l call them CPM: Challenges/Circumstance;People; and Me, I and Myself.
Today I will be focusing more on the weapon part “Me, I and Myslef” this refers to you and l as individuals because we have the power to dim our own light. We can be our own enemy based on the negative thoughts we entertain, the way we see, talk, react and present ourselves. I would like to share this statement as food for thought before I go any further: You reap what you sow. Would you agree with that statement?
Who is driving your life?
It is easy for some people to get carried away and sit at the back seat, relaxed while someone else is stirring the wheel and driving their lives. They do not take ownership and be responsible about their own life because they are used to someone else doing life for them. What happens then if that person abandons you or you no longer have the possessions? Perhaps you are being driven by things, your possessions, selfish ambitions/gains. There’s a point in life where we need to check ourselves because it is easy to get consumed with media, people, possessions to an extent that you no longer have a meaningful life and purpose. You are driven by external forces, where you are just out there to please people, compete with others or just doing things because everyone is doing it. At the end of it all you will be frustrated because of the lack of inner connection and the grace of the life you are living.
Have a time of quietness, a time to yourself and do you. The world will not run away. Take time to rest, go for a retreat, have time with yourself, meditate and pray, it’s so peaceful and rejuvenating. This is a time when you can think and see clearly without being clouded by so many things around you.
Life is full of choices. You have the power and ability to choose and it is up to you to make the most of your options and do what you can to achieve your set goals in life. Choose wisely.
Who is behind your ears? Who is feeding you?
People around us have opinions, they come with suggestions and they can encourage or discourage you. Be mindful of the people you bring in your space, some people can ruin your vision because they are not the visionary, they don’t treasure the precious gift inside of you. So you need to set your standards and values and be responsible as you take control of your decisions. We are all different and wired differently. Don’t be dragged into something you can’t afford. Be a person of integrity, be honesty, fair, just and respectful of others. As much as we might take advice from others, we need to weigh the pros and cons before running into someone else’s ideas and plans. It’s good to work within your means, being content with who you are and what you believe. You don’t have to prove yourself to anybody. It is time to learn to say no, wait, next time so that you don’t end up suffering from a people approval addiction – living your life for other people.
Knowing your true self, your weaknesses, strengths and how you react to situations enables you to acknowledge the need for change to achieve best outcomes in life. There are ups and downs in life and things will never go your way all the time. It is a learning process as you take the initial steps to make a difference. You have the power and choice to bring the change you want despite the challenges you might experience. Do not look at the negative negatively, at times we have to go through pain to gain or move to a next level or to get to the other side. Do not give up on your dreams.
How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation.. ( Isaiah 52 v 7 NIV). Bring positivity in your own life and to those around you by the way you think, see, communicate and relate with others. You are the light of the world, a city set on a hill cannot be hidden. As you take stock of your inner persom, prune and remove unwanted baggage that can dim your light and cultivate healthy relationships and conversations. You will grow well when you water yourself with goodness. Everything you do or say, let it come from your heart. Mean what you say. As Maya Angelou says “At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel”. Keep your light shining by maintaining good health – exercising, eating healthy, reading books and praying.
Be grateful of who you are and what you have and treasure that. Live in the now and have a peace of mind. Take care of your spiritual, physical, emotional and social wellbeing and maintain a balance.
Remember this statement – you will rip what you sow. Learn when to speak and when to be silent. Psalm 141 v 3 New International Version (NIV). Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.Proverbs 21v 23 (New King James Version) Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles. Let there be a hedge of protection around your light and keep shining!
By Tendayi Ganga – CEO and Founder of Born To Shine Women Empowerment Organization.